Real? or Fake?

It's funny to me when I hear a conversation between two FB junkies - "I have 300 friends on Facebook....Really? Why so few?  I have 678" and on and on.  How can someone possibly have 678 real friends? It's not possible if you think about what makes a real friend.

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Orrin Woodward, in his book Resolved - 13 Resolutions for LIFE, includes a chapter about friendship (Chapter 7).  He lists the 8 principles of true friendship:

    1.    True friends form a shared insight, interest, or taste enjoying the common bond uniting them.

    2.    True friends accept one another, loving each other despite their human imperfections.

    3.    True friends approve of one another, protecting each other's weaknesses while enhancing each other's strengths.

    4.    True friends appreciate one another, encouraging, serving, and believing in one another's gifts and talents.

    5.    True friends listen with empathy, learning the hopes, dreams, fears, and struggles of each other.

    6.    True friends celebrate one another's success, proud of each other's accomplishments without a hint of envy.

    7.    True friends are trustworthy, maintaining all confidences shared with unimpeachable honour and self-respect, knowing that gossip separates the best of friends.

    8.    True friends are loyal, respecting and defending one another's character, reputation and motives, as far as truth allows, while addressing any issues or concerns between them promptly and privately, ensuring misunderstandings never fester.

I admit I have accounts with FB, Linkedin, and Twitter.  I use them to possibly begin relationships, not to build - building relationships takes more than social media.  It takes work.  My friend Claude Hamilton, a co-founder of the LIFE business once said to me..."Phil, all the skills and one-liners you used to get Catherine to date you is not what got Catherine to accept your marriage proposal (so true - it was my devilish good looks, charm and the rubber boots I wore on my feet!).  And what it takes to get married is certainly not what it takes to stay married".

It's a totally different game.  Just like getting to be the champion is different than staying the champ.

Facebook and social media "relationships" are weak and have little value - having 978 friends on social media is unlikely to yield meaningful long-lasting relationships.  Think about the relationship you have with your spouse and the time spent with him/her to develop a long-lasting relationship based on trust.  Conversely, you can create "relationships" with people around the world via social media in the matter of a few clicks.  These a low-quality connection, that develop into nothing more than thin, surface-level relationships.

Resolution 7 of 13

Resolved: I resolve to develop the art and science of friendship. I know that everyone needs a true friend to lighten the load when life gets heavy. 

True relationships are a two-way street.  I invest in you - you invest in me.  For example, if I didn't invest in my wife or daughter, eventually we would have a thin relationship of little quality or value.  Same as social media - there's no investment, so there's no value.

People invest copious amounts of time playing Farmville or other social media entertainment with "their communities".  This is what is called an investment in low quality content.  Like a low-end vehicle fixed with low-end parts, communities built solely through social media won't last long, have value or go very far.

I believe through creating stronger, more meaningful relationships we will be better.  This can only be done be reprogramming how we think, with different information.

Getting the right information from people who have personally developed trusting long- lasting relationships - and helped others do the same - is key.

Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the best selling `Five Love Languages series, which have sold more than 3 million copies worldwide.

Don't raise the debt limit - Plllleeeaase!

The following 3minute short movie clip is pretty funny and aimed at the United States.  However that very same clip is the reality for most westernized countries (Canada) whether we or they like to admit it or not.

The United States debt limit explained. A satirical short film taking a look at the national debt and how it applies to just one family. The watch our follow up video: Knock Knock IRS http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZtJX0VIpTYo Watch the guy from the Sprint Ads, Ferris Bueller Superbowl Spot and plays Arwin!

Yes we smile and point at America and their government's fiscal irresponsibility and say it won't happen to us "we don't live in America", reality check....it is happening, not on the same scale population wise but it is happening.  What if we fixed our personal finances with our own families first? Would that make a difference?

Click on the Picture to find out your Canadian Provinces Debt load.

Click on the Picture to find out your Canadian Provinces Debt load.

Currently every newborn in Nova Scotia, Canada (that's where I live) comes into this world owing $14,008 in provincial debt.

"We teach our kids to live within their means, to match their incomes.  These are principles that the government ought to live by." - Jamie Baillie, Nova Scotia PC Leader

"In my mind, it's really gone beyond a question of what is sound business practice, and becomes a question of whether it's right or wrong."  - Jacques Lapointe, Nova Scotia's Auditor General

One of the many things LIFE Co-Founder Claude Hamilton teaches to hundreds of thousands of people is sound financial principles.  What I appreciate about my friend Claude is that he practices what he teaches.  This is unfortunately not a common thing these days.

The Family That Stopped Reading

It's amazing how little has changed in the education of our kids over the years. It is as though just because we live in Canada and America we are somehow, miraculously insulated from the need to change how we teach our growing kids in today's environment.  Schools are still factories that produce employees. With limited intellectual stimulation, most students are able to advance from one grade to the next as long as they attend class and submit to their teachers.  North America doesn't need more factory type education, North America needs people who are taught how to think, not what to think.

Check out this video ... it's 11 minutes long and worth it.

 

WHAT CAN YOU and I DO?

Start reading.  Setting the right example for our kids is fundamental.  Turn off the TV, turn off the Gaming devices, YOU stop watching TV and playing those crazy games, better yet if you can't stop....Break the TV and Gaming devices!

READ the right things.  My kids and your kids are the ones who will change this nation IF you and I start a culture of reading now in our homes.  Your kids don't read? PAY them money to read.  What's a better return on investment???  Paying them to take the garbage out or paying them to read?

The educational engine

The educational engine does not need fine-tuning; we need to bust that thing into a million pieces and rebuild it with different pieces.  It needs a total change of direction. It needs to make students read and then want to read, read, and read.  We need YOUR HELP!

Change your information, change your thinking, change your results
— Claude Hamilton

Governments of Canada and the United States of America

The Governments of Canada and the United States of America may not ready for the people to be truly educated but we are.  Thankfully people are deciding that it's time to stand and make a difference, they started reading great books.

If you read, your kids will read.  Change you, change your family, change your town, change your country.  Learn to read today.